The Most Embarrassing Part of this Sisterhood Saga

I have several Facebook platforms one of them I use to discuss a lot of different topics and deliver them in my most charming fashion *wink* I talk about the government, politicians, celebrities, white people, being a mom, being an aunt, but I mostly talk about real black ass issues, real black community problems, real black family breakdown, and real black love in an effort to be honest and transparent about where we are as a people, what we want to consider in order to make positive changes, and which direction we are headed and are we certain we want…

I Don’t Have Time For This Shit

What's up with the dating pool and why is it full of pee and poop? It shouldn’t be nearly this complicated to meet and be with your soulmate. Why so many games? Why are so many folks insecure? Why so much hate for Black women? Why are so many adults delayed in the peace and love department? Why no family values? Why are folks 30+ never ready? You meet a person, you get to know each other, you click well, everything should flow naturally from there. But nope. I’m going to start off by asking, why in the absolute hell…

Grief Etiquette for The So-Called “Pro-Black” and Everybody Else

What part of mourning the loss of a loved one, don’t people understand? Do yall think that only applies to white people?

Photo by Walid Hamadeh on Unsplash




deep sorrow, especially that caused by someone’s death.

Similar: sorrow, misery. sadness, anguish, pain distress, agony.

If the definition of grief isn’t clear enough, take a look at this overview from Wikipedia:

Grief is the response to loss, particularly to the loss of someone or some living thing that has died, to which a bond or affection was formed. …

Black Culture Colonized and Bassackwards

I always see Black women being told to “stay for the kids” but I don’t hear anyone telling Black men don’t cheat, don’t abuse, don’t do drugs for the kids.

Why is that?

Before you raise your hand to beat on that woman, think about the kids.
Before you go sticking your penis in another woman’s vagina and humiliating YOUR family, think about the kids.
Before you go trying drugs, think about the kids.
Before you go taking money from your household to give your side chick, think about the kids.
Before you take money to support your drug habit, think about the kids.

I’m Sorry Mrs. Jaxn But They Are For Real

We are currently in the light of the Derrick Jaxon scandal and not much to my surprise a black woman has been humiliated, degraded, disrespected, and so much more by her own husband, and of course, black people don’t see the extent of the damage that has been caused. Not just to Da’Naia Jackson but to so many women who suffer betrayal at the hands of their husbands.

When Beyonce got cheated on by her husband Jay-Z, she used her Lemonade album to reveal how bad his infidelity affected her and had her broken and feeling worthless mentally and physically…

Case Study #53

Let's discuss Case Study #53 who goes by the name of Amiri Brown and David Cuffe all over social media. His real name is Mishel White. I remember coming across this dude in a Facebook group he started. I ended up in this group because he invited me, a random stranger, to his group. Obviously, he was prowling through social media looking for ways to grow his group, saw my content, and figured I’d be a good addition. I ain’t mad at that, he was right. With a group called “Black Men and Women United”, it sounded like a place…

The Art of Self Preservation

I have this motto I have come to live by, this phrase I say out loud that leaves the elders clutching their pearls, “I like to rest BEFORE I get tired”. This confession never did sit well in a world where you MUST kill yourself daily in order to appear accomplished or feel like you’re worth a damn. Wearing myself out is a no for me.

The best time for me to relax, take a break, or rest, is before I really need to. After experiencing the benefits of resting before I get tired opposed to resting AFTER I get…

Mocha Moma

Award winning poet. Author of Soul Not For Sale-The Poetic Publication. The Love Poet speaking out against Unhealthy Black Culture and its generational damage.

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